Using your power to take control feels safe, but it also builds a barrier to intimacy. Without even realizing it, you’ve likely built coping strategies to keep yourself from feeling vulnerable in your marriage. This book will help you understand the tension between desperately wanting to build the hero in your husband and being too proud or afraid to trust him. If you have found yourself using your power to overpower your husband, this book is for you.
Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, and an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology.
From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family Broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality. In 2020, Juli launched SexualDiscipleship.com, a platform designed to help Christian leaders navigate sexual issues and questions with gospel-centered truth.
Juli is the author of ten books and host of the weekly podcast “Java with Juli.” Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.
As I read it, I saw myself in a new light. My fears and pride were exposed, but there was no shame in sight, only hope. Just as the possibilities for what our husbands can be with our and the Holy Spirit’s help are endless, the same is true of us. The hard parts of our marriages don’t tell the whole story, and the weakest parts of you are not all you are. There is so much more love, joy, and intimacy to be discovered and that is good news so as Juli closes, so will I: "When those who know me best reflect on my life, let them not say, “She was a happy wife,” but “She was a faithful woman.” May the same be said of you!”
And to that I say, “Amen.”
"I’ve been married over 40 years, and I have read a lot of books on being a wife. "Finding the Hero in Your Husband" is a must-read! I wish I had this book when I was younger. It would have saved me from making many mistakes that caused a lot of pain. Read it now! You will be glad you did, and your husband will thank you for decades to come."
Co-host of the Family Life Today radio broadcast and co-author of "Vertical Marriage"
"To understand and believe that power that we as women have in our marriages is a game-changer. The power to create intimacy, the power to build up, the power to help our husbands become the men that God created them to be - what a gift! This book will cause you to look at your marriage through a new lens. You will love better, trust better, pray better, and encourage better because of this book. Thank you, Juli, for this gift to marriages around the world!"
Host of The Happy Hour podcast and author of "If You Only Knew" and "Complement"