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Q&A: What Is a Better Way to Approach the Statement, "Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin"?

"With friends and family who are homosexual, the Christian narrative tends to be ‘love the sinner hate the sin.’ But when someone's identity is so interwoven with their sexual orientation, this message doesn't work. Can you share a better way of thinking this through?" We’ve all heard someone say it: Love the sinner, hate the sin. But is it kind? Is it eve...

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3 Things I Want You To Know as I Launch a Countercultural Book

A book release. Normally this would be an exciting event. It’s kind of like giving birth to a child that you have nurtured in your womb for nine months. As this one approaches, my excitement is honestly mixed with trepidation. Over twenty years ago, I wrote my first book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband. I was a young wife and therapist, yet God was giving me wisdom to understand some...

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Q&A: How Do I Get Past Sexual Partners Out of My Head?

Do you worry about how your sexual past will impact your future relationships? It seems to be on a lot of people's minds lately: How can I get married without fear that my past sexual sin will impact my sexual relationship with my husband? And, from another listener: If you've had multiple partners before marriage, how do you get rid of those men in your head? Juli's guest,...

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Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex

For this post, I'm sharing a partial transcript of a jewel from our Java with Juli archive, episode #132, "Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex" with my friends Linda Dillow and Hannah Nitz. We opened this "mailbag episode" by talking about why I love my job so much: because I get to help women find answers to their questions—even questions about their sex li...

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Q&A: How Do I Keep My Opposite-Sex Friendships and Still Honor a New Dating Relationship?

Dear Juli, I am in a relationship with a great guy, and I also have some meaningful friendships with other Christian men. How do I honor both kinds of relationships as they coexist? What does this look like in the context of dating? In marriage? Opposite-sex friendships are important and valuable! In a sexualized culture, and in our churches, these relationships can quickly become complicate...

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When Cancel Culture Invades the Church

Your social media feed is probably filled with examples of the latest person who has been “cancelled” because of something they said years ago or an unpopular position they recently expressed. Being cancelled is a weapon powerful enough to prompt teens to take their own lives and to silence men and women on issues that truly matter to them. Everything that happens within the larger ...

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Q&A: What Do I Do When Sexual Sin Gets the Better of Me?

Dear Juli, My journey with fighting sexual temptation has been long and exhausting. I'm at a point where I know I'm not perfect. I'm going to fail sometimes. So how do I respond after I masturbate? Or watch porn? Or commit some other sexual act that I didn't want to? No matter your sexual struggle, we are all on a stumbling journey toward sexual integrity. In this video, Juli...

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Sexual Attraction Isn't as Important as You Think, Here's Why

Within the past few months, several different people have posed questions to me about the importance of sexual attraction. - A young woman asked, “I am in a dating relationship with a great guy. We connect on a lot of levels, but I’m not sexually attracted to him. When we kiss, it’s more like kissing my brother. Does this mean we shouldn’t get married?” - A ...

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Q&A: I've Never Prayed About Sex Before. How Do I Start?

Praying about your sex life? It's a little awkward at first. That's because even those of us who've grown up in church have been led to believe that sexual problems don't belong there. In this video, Juli opens the Word and reminds the crowd at a “God, Sex, & Your Marriage” event that it was God who created sexual intimacy — and He blesses it! It's O...

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Six Red Flags You Can't Ignore in Dating

by Joy Skarka Are you dating someone and wondering if the red flags you see are reason enough to break up with him or her? Do your friends and family have concerns about the relationship? If you feel in your heart that something is just not right, don’t ignore it. It might be the Holy Spirit. Does God care who you date? “The survey says, Yes!" Of course God cares! God is ...

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