This question comes from a reader:
"I’m in a place where God is restoring parts of my life that had been broken, so I can see His true design for these areas—including what’s happened to me in sexual abuse. What is the first step I can take with the Lord to help me understand what I believe and why I believe it for myself?"
A man approached me after hearing me speak on the topic of sexual intimacy and thanked me for talking openly about such a vulnerable subject. Then he began sharing his story with me. He had just divorced his wife of 29 years because of a lack of fulfilling sex in their marriage.
I wish I had heard you speak when we first got married. At this point, it’s just too late for us. Neither o...
This important question comes from a reader:
In your professional opinion, can masturbation ever be good? Can it be something that lets off steam in terms of sexual tension or something that helps you learn your body?"
(Presione aquí para leer en español.) Whenever I speak to a group of people about sexuality, I try to include time for an anonymous Q&A session. No matter who is listening, young or old, male or female, married or single, I am sure to be asked about masturbation: Is it wrong? What does the Bible say about it? Many Christians have spoken and written on the topic, some of them w...
With each birthday celebration, I have friends and relatives who console each other by saying something like, “At least we are getting wiser!” There is an old adage that with age comes wisdom. Without a doubt, the longer we live on the planet, the more we have seen and experienced. It’s tempting to look at younger generations with a knowing smile that says, “You’re...
This question comes from a husband:
"I’ve struggled greatly with porn throughout my life and now I have a passion to warn and protect my children. However, my wife is concerned I will overshare, while she struggles with under-sharing and frequently resists these awkward and difficult conversations. What advice would you have for navigating this as a couple and as parents?"
No, Lord, not another one! My stomach feels sick every time I see the headline of a Christian leader accused of sexual misconduct.
Over the years some of you have reached out to ask me what I think about high profile accusations of Christian leaders. You’ve wondered why I don’t write a timely blog or talk about specific situations on our podcast. I’d like to share my heart...
This question comes from a wife:
"My husband and I have been working through the emotional abuse and are really establishing some good patterns in our marriage right now. Can our sex life play a role in our healing?"
I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood there naked, alone, and ashamed. I began to question God and His love for me. Soon after this moment, I cried out to God in a journal entry. I wrote,
God do you care?
God were you there?
Were you there when her world fell apart?
When he took her identity?
When he took her...