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Priortize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Body Ready, Part 2

Much of my work in helping people navigate sexual issues revolves around how we think about sex. Your thought life, and your understanding of God and sex, are very important to your sex life. However, the basic truth is this: you can’t have sex without a body. Sex, at one level, is a gift exchange of two bodies. I give my body to my husband and he gives his to me. There have been seas...

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Q&A: How Do I Get Past the Shame of Sexual Sin?

"I spent a lot of years getting a doctorate degree in clinical psychology to learn how to talk you out of negative thinking and shame. Here's what I've learned..." In this video, Juli shares what she knows to be the ONLY way to get rid of your shame. Watch to find out how. If you'd like to learn more, here are a few more resources for you: God's Healing Sti...

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Prioritize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Mind Ready, Part 1

“Your most important sex organ is your brain.” I remember when I first heard this statement as a young married woman. Enjoying sex is practically impossible without thinking about it. Both men and women can struggle to know how to think about sex in a way that is both exciting and honoring to each other. However, the link between thinking about sex and preparing for it is parti...

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Q&A: Do Patterns of Sexual Sin in Dating Mean We Should Take a Break?

How do you break patterns of sexual sin in dating without taking a break from the relationship? In this video, Juli answers the question with a question (don't you just love it when she does that!?)—and the answer may reveal an issue that runs much deeper than sexual behavior. Want to explore this conversation further? Try these resources: Your Questions About Sex Point to...

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A Road Map to Sexual Integrity in the Midst of Sexual Brokenness

Do you want to know the question that keeps me up at night? It’s this: How can I honor God with my sexuality in the face of my sexual brokenness and unmet desires? At Authentic Intimacy, we often use words like sexual wholeness or sexual integrity instead of sexual purity. The first time I remember hearing this distinction, I was skeptical. Isn’t that just a fancy repackaging of...

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Q&A: As I Grow in Sexual Integrity, Can I Stop Using Accountability Software?

I use content filters and parental controls on my devices to help me avoid pornography. Is it OK to use these tools forever, or should I be aiming to learn to live in sexual integrity without these guardrails? Joy Skarka shares how accountability software can provide both safety and assurance, even when you've been walking in freedom from porn for years. You may also find these videos...

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Q&A: How Long Do You Wait To Restore Trust After Lying and Infidelity?

How long should it take you to trust someone again after lying and infidelity has taken place? It depends... there is a lot more to it than just the passage of time. Here Juli shares a few things that need to happen during the restoration period in order to rebuild trust and intimacy. If you're rebuilding trust in a relationship, here are a few other resources that might help you: ...

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Are You a Good Friend? 7 Keys to Building Healthy Friendship

Several months ago, a friend invited me to coffee. After catching up on kids and ministry, I noticed her countenance shift. She obviously was struggling to share something difficult with me. After a few deep breaths, my friend explained how several years ago I had said and done things that deeply hurt her. I felt horrible for my insensitivity and for how I had hurt her without realizing the imp...

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Q&A: Where Is the Balance Between Doing My Part and Trusting God to Do His?

Where is the balance between personal integrity and trusting in God to do only what He can do? Will I just have to get used to being disappointed in myself and my sin? When it comes to breaking free from sexual sin, there are things you can do and there are things only God can do. Here, Juli shares how to walk with God as you do your part, trusting that He is faithful to do His. You ma...

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5 Ways the Church Must “Step Up” in Response to Sexual Abuse Within Its Walls

A few weeks ago, the Christian world was rocked by a bombshell revelation. An independent report of the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) documented a pattern of ignoring and silencing victims of sexual abuse within the denomination. While there were rumblings of trouble a few years ago, even the leaders who called for the investigation were horrified by what it revealed. Russel Moore, who was ...

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